Sleep deprivation and how to cope

So nearly 6 months in (8 days to go!) and we are STILL struggling with sleep. We're pretty lucky that Florence gives us our evening time but come 11pm, we're up every 2 hours nearly every night. With Isabella to get up for the school run, different baby groups and jobs to do, it's fair to say I've felt on the edge of insanity a few times (to which Lee had been on the receiving end- sorry!) There's a reason sleep deprivation is a form of torture! These are my top tips for surviving those sleepless nights.

An early night

Many times in the early days, as soon as Isabella was in bed, so was I. Trying to pack in some kip earlier on in the night was key. With Lee away working this was much easier; even if I have no idea what's happening in the soaps these days. Going to bed at 7pm hasn't been sustainable with housework to do but I try to be in bed for around 9-10pm- rock and roll!

Keep drinking

In the early days of breastfeeding, I was in such a good routine of drinking plenty of water. Now, not so much! Keeping yourself hydrated is a great way to try and keep fatigue at bay for as long as possible. I'm guilty of turning to coffee first but I definitely notice a difference if I make the effort to drink water.

Eat

On more than one occasion, I've got into bed and then remembered I didn't have tea. Isabella is of course fed and watered but the sudden stomach growling is a reminder that I should have had an evening meal. When sleep deprived, it's natural to crave sugar for an instant energy hit. I literally can't count how many chocolate bars I've eaten on maternity leave so far. No no, not single bars, family sharer bars!! Yes, sugar takes the edge off, but a decent meal keeps you going for longer.

3 days old

Always ask

I hate asking for help. I'll always try and do things myself before turning to others. Not a boast, in fact often a curse. This time around, I had no choice. Unfortunately time doesn't stand still once you've had a baby, partners need to go back to work, meals need to be cooked and the school run done. I didn't ask for help, I was told I was getting it. Family members were life savers when I was banned from pushing the pram or exerting myself, which could have compromised my recovery. A pair of hands to make you that cuppa or shove a pizza in the oven so you can grab a nap is priceless.

Breathe

My biggest feeling of guilt came from first bringing our new baby home. Life changed instantly for Isabella. Suddenly she had to share the Mummy and Daddy she'd had to herself for 4 and a half years. With a baby constantly attached to me and barely a wink of sleep, the constant questions and requests sometimes were too much and more than once I cried with frustration at feeling so thinly spread. Taking a deep breath and just a moment to clear your mind does wonders. Isabella is now an amazing sister but those early days were definitely the most difficult and emotional all round.

Patience

Lower your expectations. Your next door neighbour's, friend's, sister's baby might have slept through since day nought but not every baby will. Don't compare and you'll find yourself relax and follow your baby's cues much easier. I was guilty of comparing with Isabella and ended up feeling so much pressure to try and get her to sleep through. This time, I've definitely relaxed more. That's not to say it's easy hearing about others sleeping through but I do know this isn't forever.

Nap

3 months old

I put this one last for a reason. It really isn't always possible. I always say I should do it more but I'd end up stressed out at a messy house, go to bed late and ultimately reverse any positive effect. At least once a week, I keep a day free to stay at home and if we don't nap, at least rest.

So the battle continues. It's good to vent every now and then, especially with other mummy friends who know exactly how you feel and have also put the cereal in the fridge. Ultimately we'll plough on, keep doing what we're doing and when Florence does sleep through (hopefully before she's 21), well I shall be very happy!